lately. More than I ever wanted to spend. They are truly horror chambers. They are understaffed and underfunded..........so what do you expect to happen? I wish everyone would visit a nursing home with the mental state that they are the one in the bed. I have noticed the ones who get the best treatment are the ones with the best visitors....the ones who are polite and compliment the nurses and other workers.

A friend of mine was murdered in a nursing home recently. He was an Gay WWII Vet. He was incredibly noble person who I will miss a great deal. I wish his last days had been more dignified and pleasant. My elegant friend was reduced to rags. He looked like a homeless man. If you gave him anything it put him at risk from theft. He ended up in the home because he had a stroke and there was nobody to look after him, even though he had a companion who cared for him. He was a fall risk, so could not be left alone. He was just starting to walk when another patient in the facility he was in knocked him to the floor. He hit his head, sustained a pelvis and femur fracture. He went into a comma and never awoke.

I visited him from time to time, but I must say it was one of the most difficult things I've done in my life. The smell, the sounds...........I heard a woman screaming and screaming and realized I had become so hardened to the sounds I was blocking them out. I decided to see what was going on and discovered a woman who was in a broken bed. She was screaming for help to fix the bed.

I could go on and on about this issue......I've seen way too much as of late. If you need to put a loved one in a home, please take care to check on them once a day, and try to do it at different times a day.........and most of all.....be nice to the workers in the home......they have a very difficult job.

If you don't have anyone you know in a nursing home, visit anyway so you are aware of the issue.........sooner or later you may just end up there yourself.