What will it cost you personally if the GLBT gets complete and total equal rights? Will it cost you your job? Your spouse if you have one? Will it cost you custody of your children?

Because, for me, as a headed toward late middle age straight, married woman, it won't affect me personally at all. I will still be married, as evidenced by the marriages that took place in San Francisco and I will still have my home, my job and my family.

I will still get to volunteer at my children's schools and I will get to be the one asked about my husband's wishes when he is having additional surgery.

So, why can't we all get behind the push for total and complete equal rights for the GLBT community? Not 'civil unions', marriage. I'm not civil unioned, I'm married. Yes, it is a word, but it is a word that has a tremendous amount of impact to a lot of people in this country.

We NEED to do this, as the progressive party. We NEED to give our friends, our brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, sons, daughters, who are gay complete and total equal rights. It needs to happen sooner rather than later. The GLBT community has been told to 'sit down and be quiet' for too long. The NJ ruling is obviously proof, at least to me, that giving the GLBT community equal rights isn't going to cost elections if that is the concern, and I must say, I don't really think that it is.

Let's get on board, together, as progressives or even extremely conservative members of the Democratic party. Let's do this for them, and for ourselves.

I mean, it's not as though the straight community hasn't completely fucked up the whole notion of 'til death do us part'. How can the GLBT community do any worse?

Peace.