When he gave the keynote speech, I had great hope that we were finally going to see an end to the diviseness that has pervaded this country.

Alas, it is not to be.

Some of you may know that in 2006, my husband underwent an emergency quadruple bypass. A surgery which the surgeon himself didn't think would have a happy ending. At the hospital, no one asked me to see any 'papers' or 'identification', it was just assumed, correctly, that we were legally married.

In retelling the situation to two friends of mine who happen to be a same sex couple with a child, a very sad look happened across Cathy's face.

Looking across the room at her SO, she said 'that won't happen for us. Julie's mom has already indicated that she would do everything in her power to keep me out of the hospital room and move forward with a custody battle.'

Epiphany? You might say that. Having had gay and lesbian friends for many years, I was struck dumb at how ignorant I was of the problems they face because of who they love.

If Obama can't see that it is wrong to embrace a homophobe, I can't support him. I will vote for him in the GE if he is the candidate, but I won't send him a dime and I won't campaign for him.

I had such high hopes.

Flame suit on.