Okay, so it was really only arwalden's poll about bridesmaids, but still--what did/would YOU do for your wedding, if you were to have one?

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I think I would have a wedding no matter what--a very simple one. A fair amount of people might be invited, but there wouldn't be bridesmaids or groomsmen or anything like that--just me and my husband-to-be.

I would probably wear a white dress, but not one of those ballooning ballgown things--just something nice, and SIMPLE, as simple would be the theme of the day. And no veil--what am I, a pretty porcelain doll to be auctioned off to the highest bidder? No; thanks all the same. I'll stick to a simple little green circlet. The Mr. can wear whatever he damn well pleases, but I would expect him to tell me, of course, and to have an equal part in the wedding planning in general. I'm sick of how the women seem to do all the work--there are TWO people getting married.

I would most definitely want to get married in the fall when the leaves are at their peak, here in the northeast (preferably ME), as near to the ocean as possible without actually being on a beach, and definitely outside. So for decorations--oh, I don't know; I guess some leftover summer greenery things and plenty of red-orange-yellow flowers. I am a big fan of flowers in general. I like those latticed archways over the "altar," if they can look fititng for the scene.

Late afternoon ceremony would be simple. Processional--simple but solemn/dignified; I've gotta stay with tradition here and ask for Pachelbel's "Canon" in D, preferably played by live musicians, if I can get 'em. "Processional" itself would just be me walking in from one side while groom walks in from the other side--neither one of us entering before the other, or making a big show of things, just walking in to be joined, maybe with our parents walking beside us--BUT NOT GIVING US AWAY. ( )

Ceremony itself--justice of peace or some such person presiding. Simple little words--ideally we would write our own vows/expressions of undying love/whatever. No mentions of religion, just love and happiness and all that. Exchange of rings--same thing. Kiss each other--woohoo. Officially married.

Recessional--some jazz standard, considerably livelier than processional. Hey, we're fucking married now--we'll flipping dance our way back from that latticed arch if we want to! Ideally the guests would join in if the mood struck them--a bit of jazz and dancing to start the marriage off right.

Pics/etc....whatever strikes the mood. I like pictures--just not the process of having them taken.

Reception--dinner. Probably a whole bunch of food. No attendants, so our parents can do the toasts, and anybody else who has something to say. All in good fun, all appropriate. After we eat is dancing. Ideally a combination of live music and a DJ would be awesome, but I don't know how feasible it could be. I'd want our jazz selections--of which there would be many --to be live, but also plenty of rock 'n roll, which obviously would be best queued up by a DJ. First dance--sure, why not? I'm a huge fan of Elton John's "Your Song"...

Cake sometime--chocolate with white frosting. Willing to compromise on that--so long as there's cake. More dancing after that, people drinking, whatever.

People leave and go home sometime before daybreak--then new husband and I go away by ourselves.

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And there you have it: my "perfect" wedding, highly unlikely to be fulfilled any time in the next 15 years.

Whatchy'all like for yourselves? Weddings fascinate me....