I was so excited. I was sure it would be the day I was praying for. In health class the year before we studied homosexuality and the teacher told us that it was a phase and would go away by the time a boy was 17. So I circled that day on my calander. I was sure my prayers would be answered. I didn't want a car. I didn't want new clothes. I wanted one thing for that birthday. I wanted to be normal. Of course it didn't happen. It also didn't happen a few months later when I was on a harrowing trip from NYC to West Point (don't ask) and I promised I would swear off men forever if I only didn't get killed.

I went so far as to look into an ex gay treatment center but my parent's insurance wouldn't pay. They called it quackery. Decades later I am an adult who is comfortable with myself. It took a very, very long time and I took a side trip down many a bottle getting there.

Let me be blunt here. What is happening today is odious. A group of citizens are being used for political fodder, and folks, if it can happen to us don't think it can't happen to you. Turning marriage from a right to a priviledge is frought with danger not just for us, but for you. Someone, somewhere, at some point in time hated you. Don't be so sure it won't happen again.

Maybe we will eventually win this war. Maybe we won't. I honestly don't know. But this isn't just our battle no matter how much some of you might wish it to be. The people behind this have other rules too. They don't like divorce. They don't like marriages where the woman is an equal partner. They don't like sex that isn't linked to procreation. Do you honestly think that they will be sated by throwing us under the bus? I wouldn't bet the farm on it.