if you are in a town that has one gay bar and it isn't a bear bar. then do the non-bearish gays think that as a bear you are out of place. I happen to be a bear that happens to be attracted to other bears. don't have much problems with non bears although transsexuals and cross dressers I don't find attractive. I prefer men that like me would be easily mistaken for straight. or at minimum the leatherman if I cant find other bears.